Listen as Clare discusses Selfie Etiquette with Glenn Ridge on 3MP
G: You put your phone on the end of it and you push a button and then it takes photo of you and whatever is behind you.
Remember the queen bombed a selfie once? Are there rules and laws as to how and when you should do selfies? They’re banned in Wimbledon at the moment. And so our image consultant Clare Maxfield joins us.
How are you Clare?
C: I’m really good Glenn.
G: Have you been guilty of taking a selfie in inappropriate times?
C: Well, actually, kind of yes and this what made me start thinking about this.
C: Well, it is inappropriate at the time but on retrospect maybe not so.
G: Okay. Where was… I’ve never taken a selfie of myself. Only when I meant to take a photo of someone else but I pushed the wrong button and took a photo of me.
C: Well recently, 2 weeks ago, at a friend’s wake, a whole group of us that were together
C: and you know, it started off very… you know, very somber and we’re all very respectful and… Look, he was a larrikin anyway so he would loved it and by the end we are taking photos of ourselves, taking photos of each other, we’re all having a wow of a time till like… you know, Creaky, we’re still here for you mate. And then, also later we looked and we went: “was that inappropriate?”
G: Well, was it?
C: For us, we didn’t think so because that was his persona but there was all that back lash when Obama and Cameron did a selfie in Mandela’s funeral a few years ago.
G: That’s right.
C: And that was world news.
G: Yeah. Now, I noticed that they’re banned – particularly the selfie sticks. You can’t ban taking selfies obviously, but with selfie sticks they’re banned at Wimbledon. Do you think that’s a good thing?
C: Well look. There also banned at the Opera House. And what I think it is, it’s more from an occ(upational) health and safety perspective.
And for that, you know, when someone pulls out their sticks and they are taking their photo and they might be seated in a stand and the person in front of them stands up so quickly and “bam!” they connect with your Apple. For that reason, yes! You do need to be careful with that being used but from a social media marketing point of view, not that Wimbledon would probably need a lot of it but everyone is taking their shots saying “hey, this is where I am!”
G: But I believe some of AFL clubs, actually give them out to their fans at the football. Have you heard that?
C: I have heard that as well. And I think that’s a great idea because all the fans were there taking their photos, getting better quality shots. I’m sure the teams are using them for their own, you know, marketing and media so like “hey, this person tagged himself at the game”.
So, from a marketing point of view, I think it’s great! You’ve just got to be careful who’s standing up in front of you, if there’s someone below you and you’ve got your selfie stick.
G: How do they work? You put the phone in the stick, then you push the button at the end of the stick which takes the photo and connects to your phone somehow, does it?
C: There’s a Bluetooth often. And so you’ve got your… Personally I don’t have one but I’ve seen friends with them. They’ve got their camera on their… or their phone on their selfie stick and in their other hand, it’s like a little Bluetooth button connected to your phone and you click that.
G: Ahh… Okay. all very…
C: It’s all very take me
G: … overly difficult. Sorry, maybe not taking selfies at the wake is a good way to go?
C: I would start saying… If it’s… well, think of if everyone is kind of it the character or should I say the character of the person deceased, if they love the life and they wanted everyone to enjoy themselves, then…
G: Give it a go!
C: Maybe it’s appropriate. But if it is maybe very somber, solemn occasion where if not an opportunity to…
G: In other words Clare, the short answer – No.
G: We’ll catch you later.
G: See you. Our Image Consultant – Clare Maxfield. Apparently Kim Kardashian crashes social media with her selfies. Funny about that, isn’t it?
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Clare Maxfield with Glenn Ridge_2606
G: 11 to 10. Image consultant Clare Maxfield joins us to talk about wine etiquette.
How are you Clare?
C: I’m really good, Glenn.
G: I would have thought wine etiquette would have been that if we are talking wine you would have brought some wine in?
C: Do you know what? I was considering that, but I was considering the hour of the day it is. I thought, maybe not.
G: 12 o’clock somewhere.
C: I know it is. Not here.
G: Not the right time. It’s got to be somewhere.
Wine etiquette. Now this is a very interesting subject.
C: Wine etiquette has been around forever. It’s almost one of the first etiquettes to start because it is all about how we exist and you know, work with each other but it is still very important today.
G: What are you talking about here? Are you talking about for example, my idea of wine etiquette is if I go to someone’s place, I always take the worst bottle of red because I have to get rid of it somehow.
C: And you know how I was having you out for dinner next week? I think we’re going to cancel that one.
Wine etiquette for me is about when you take a gift to someone, what kind of gift and what you have to expect them to do with that gift or not do. It’s also what glass to put it in, how to serve it to someone, where to pair it with meal.
So there is a whole lot around wine etiquette. It’s not just the case of popping down to the local Bottle O and picking up a bottle of wine.
G: I disagree. What if I take a good bottle of wine and think – “this would be really nice” and so I taste it with some friends and then they don’t open it. Do I have the right to say this “Listen, I want my wine back home.” I’ll come and get a bottle of Ben Ean (moselle – a popular wine in the ‘70’s),and replacing it during the week, would it be nicer that way?
C: Well, you are going to struggle finding a Ben Ean. No. And you don’t want to be taking it back. But what I would be recommending, if you’ve found a bottle that you think is absolutely exceptional…
C: And you’ve taken along, and let’s say, it’s a really heavy red and they are doing a nice light fish dinner that requires a nice light white (wine) then what you might say at the end: “look, can we just try this, because I brought this along to share with you guys. I really want to share it with you.” So there’s nothing wrong in having that approach of explaining you want to share and not saying: “I can’t stand what you’re drinking, can you open mine?”
G: Please, quickly. What about for example, if you have what you think is a good bottle of wine and you take it there and when they opened it, it’s gone off?
C: Well then it goes…
G: Should I be embarrassed or should I think: “Oh well, that’s luck of the drawer.”
C: If it has a cork in it, and not many wines have cork in them anymore, there is a chance it may go off.
C: And so that is almost the luck of the draw and that’s just unfortunate. If it has got a screw top which doesn’t have the same finesse in opening it, but it keeps the wine better longer and it doesn’t taste any good, well that’s just bad choice.
G: Okay, so that is bad luck.
G: That’s just the way it goes.
G: What about glasses? What should we serve – wine in?
C: Okay, now.
G: They are changing all the time though. Youngies, they are doing it differently now.
C: They are. And in fact, I was reading an article the other day where some of the regions in France on champagne, some of the big houses are actually taking wine to more of a champagne more of red wine stemless glass. Interesting. I am still studying more on that.
G: So vegemite glass are we talking about there?
C: Well, more than a vegemite glass. Maybe a Nutella. But what you want to have is your red wine glass.
What you want to have is a really big bowl to it because you want the aromas to go on the glass in the very small opening so that your nose catches all those flavour.
For white wine, you want it more kind of a tulip shaped and your champagne, very long and skinny to grab all those carbonated bubbles.
G: Yeah. Is there anything wrong with putting a straw in a champagne bottle? A couple of straws maybe?
Hey, on a serious note, what do you think…? So how do you take a bottle of wine to someone’s place and it’s a nice dinner and everything…, nice night, they don’t get to open your wine and then all of a sudden you invite them back to your place a couple of weeks later and they bring your bottle of wine back – It’s that having being a cheapskate
C: No. You know what? I actually got some friends of mine who do something similar to that. If I go to their place with the wine that doesn’t get opened, they will put my name on a tag, and when I go there, they will pull it out because – they’re you go, I want to share it with them.
I sort of say, if they will bring it back, yes you could sit there and go “it’s a little bit tight.”But If I’ve taken a wine, it’s a wine I want to drink. So, I’d be happy to see it come back.
G: But if it’s a wine I want to get rid of, then, I’d make sure we would not open that one on that night and take it back. We could have this wine taken back between couples for…
C: It would be a bit of a boomerang wine for a while there.
G: Alright. Well, we got to keep our eye. There is etiquette and it doesn’t have to be snobby to have wine etiquette then?
C: No, no. And look – you sort of see people who are tasting with wine. And you think “what are they doing? Slurping and sucking it and spitting it out?”
And uhmm… So all that they are doing is just came to know the wine but taste it. And do you know the most important thing is drink what you like.
G: And if you enjoy, do it.
G: See you Clare.
C: See you Glenn.
G: It’s 10 to 10. How many times have you been caught saying things like “Uh, It’s not my fault”, “I was doing alright and that sort of thing and just having a chat to yourself and then all of a sudden someone says: “What?!” And you think, “Oh my God! I’ve been caught!” Talking to yourself. Clare Maxfield is our Image consultant. How are you Clare?
C: I’m really good. I was just telling myself yesterday how good everything is.
G: It’s really scary when you don’t listen to yourself, right? Don’t you reckon?
C: I think that’s very scary if you’re not even going to bother listening to yourself, who is going to listen to you?
G: Yeah. Okay what’s the fine line between having a chat to yourself and not being heard and being mad?
C: Well, I think the fine line is we all need to sometimes talk to ourselves and motivate ourselves. And sometimes using that third person especially like if it’s a situation we’re trying to make your mind up on something, it can be really powerful.
Because if you keep on thinking either this gets you too personal but someone outside of myself, you know what Maxfield, what should you be doing here?
And you can step away, you can see things realistically but if you find it a little bit lonely and you’re walking down the street and you’re going: “Isn’t it a nice flower over there? Gee they’ve got a great garden?! Oh, they really should have cleaned up the weeds over there.” And you’re just having a chat for the sake of a chat that to me is indicating that there’s a slight deal of madness there.
G: You did oblivious to what’s happening around. You touched an interesting point there. I want to continue with you speaking of the third person. I detest people who speak in the third person where people will say their names and sprouting a story. Why can’t be I or something like that?
C: Oh no, that’s completely..
G: And that to me is the center of the ultimate ego and I find it just detestable. Is there such a word as detestable, distasteful I mean.
C: There is detestable and distasteful, I totally agree with you.
C: I totally agree with you. I actually remember talking to someone once who continually referred to himself in the third person. He had a very questionable name anyway and kept using it in the conversation.
I was looking and going, seriously? Really? Yes. I don’t think it’s wise to have conversation with others and talk about yourself in the third person.
But if you need to have a talk to yourself, shall we say, then it’s better to use the third person because you are removing yourself.
It’s like you know, you might say to someone. If you had to give yourself this advice or someone else is going through, what you are going through, what would you say?
And that’s kind of when the third person comes in, but… if I was to sit here and say well what Clare, reckons is… That’s just weird.
G: Yeah, I guess now I agree. As I’ve said, speaking of the third person I just think Ugh… Okay, anyhow…
But I’m asking first, I have been playing sports for example and I say: “Come on Ridge, get your act together” or something like that.
C: Definitely motivational.
G: That’s alright, isn’t it?
C: That is motivational. That is fantastic. And a lot of situation people do it- in stressful, in motivational and situations where they just got to get themselves moving it- works wonderfully!
G: Do you think it’s better to talk out loud when you’re talking to yourself? For example, when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror and hopefully it’s all fogging and you’re thinking, “how come I’ve aged so well and all my mates haven’t?
But do you think it’s good to espouse one’s thoughts out loud or should one just keep them to oneself?
C: I’m having a giggle to myself because I’m thinking of situations. I think it depends where you are. If you’re on your own, and you need to have a stern chat with yourself, well go for it.
But if you’re sitting on a train or you’re walking down the street or somewhere and there’s people around, keep it to yourself.
G: They might be interested. You never know. You might be a bit harsh?
C: Look. I maybe harsh but talking out loud when people know you’re not talking to them is a sign of madness. And we’ve all seen those people wandering down the streets muttering away.
G: Do you think when you’re sitting in the car talking on the phone, remember when years ago, very few people did that and you would be chatting away and then the person In the car next to you will be looking at you and thinking, “that’s a bit odd”
G: They’re chatting away and now it’s all done deed that people around know what you’re doing. It is not that bad truly, isn’t it?
C: Not in the car. You can easily have a good chat to yourself. You might be going to a meeting, you might have left something, you want to tell yourself off, you want to build yourself up, that’s fine.
Again, as long as no one is sitting beside you, looking at your sideways.
G: Oh, I get your point. Clare Maxfield our image consultant.
If you’re going to talk to yourself, do it.
C: On your own.
G: On your own. Good on you.